Inside This Issue
Update: The Beltaine Ritual is now scheduled for Sunday May 1 at 1:30 PM.
APRIL 9 FAMILY SYNERGY 40TH ANNIVERSARY (AND BEYOND?) PLANNING MEETING
COME SUPPORT LA'S OLDEST POLY ORGANIZATION
Family Synergy was founded in 1971 by Hy Levy and
Pat LaFollette. Its founders were inspired by the works of Robert Rimmer - Harad
Experiment, Proposition 31 and many others. Live the Dream began as special
interest group of Family Synergy devoted to a more Science Fiction oriented
slant on alternative lifestyles. LTD became a separate group in 1987, then began
doing more joint activities again in 2005. We remain closely connected in
philosophy and activities. If you would like to attend this planning meeting,
RSVP or get more info on the Family Synergy web site Family
Synergy
Saturday April 16 Burning Man (11 am to 4 pm): Poly Paradise showcased
FOLLOWED BY ATLAS SHRUGGED THEATER PARTY!
Monday, April 18: (7 pm to 10:30 pm)
Live the Dream/Family Synergy
Passover Seder
Saturday April 30 7 pm Beltane!
Saturday May 7 (10 am Renaissance Pleasure Faire)
Saturday May 21 (11 am to 4 pm) : It Takes a Village to Raise a Child
Live the Dream April 2011 to May 2011
Unless otherwise noted, all events are at 8515 Penfield Ave. in Winnetka zip 91306.
Live the Dream April
2011 to May 2011
For all events: RSVP / more info call the LTD Hotline (818) 886-0069, ex. 3.
Please visit the Live the Dream website at www.livethedream.org
for info on family synergy event see: www.familysynergy.org
To see past events or articles on Live the Dream please visit: www.livethedream.org.
Note: Terry Brussel is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and a a 4th generation matchmaker. We provide poly relationship counseling, hypnotic jealousy release and other services. See www.acesuccess.com or call (800) LIFE MATES (543-3628)
PLEASE NOTE: All 3rd Saturday Live the Dream meetings are also Family Synergy connection parties from 11am-2pm Also, Family Synergy members pay member price at Live the Dream meetings & parties
EVENTS
Saturday April 16 11 am to 4 pm Burning Man Many Choices for Many Lifestyles - Poly Paradise Showcased. Harold Goldstein, who has been to Burning Man every year for nearly a decade, shares his experiences and his videos of this unique intentional community. It exists in the desert for only a couple of weeks a year, but many of the people who attend it consider it their true Home and will do anything to get there each year - even quitting jobs refusing them leave at that time. All sorts of alternative lifestyles are represented in the different camps, with Poly Paradise being one of the largest devoted to the lifestyle Live the Dream is about. Born Again Christians coexist with all out hedonists - all of them identifying first and foremost as BURNERS.
Pot Luck Lunch 1 pm - bring something healthy and delicious to share
Jacuzzi available all afternoon
ATLAS SHRUGGED THEATER PARTY FOLLOWS THIS MEETING - PLAN ON DINNER OUT TOGETHER BEFORE THE MOVIE. We will go to a Westwood theater we know it is playing for the 7 pm showing if we can't find a theater nearer to Penfield house. This movie is having some distribution difficulties which may have more of a political than an economic basis.
Check out their website.
http://www.atlasshruggedpart1.com
See article below.
SEE ARTICLE ON ATLAS SHRUGGED BELOW
Monday, April 18th
LIVE THE DREAM PASSOVER SEDER, 7:00 to 10:30 PM
Call Terry to RSVP before 4-13-10 at (818) 886-0069, ex. 3 to arrange what to bring for the Seder or to attend without a food contribution.
We need time to plan things and shop for supplies.
(Lead by Ron Milander and Ivan Frankel)
This is Celebration of Freedom!
This holiday commemorates the first time one People (the Jews) freed itself from bondage to another People (the Egyptians). We'll do this with plenty of group participation! You don't have to read Hebrew for this or even be Jewish. Whether you want to learn more about your own heritage, just share this special holiday with those you care about, or discover a cultural experience new to you, you are welcome! This is coordinated pot luck since it requires special foods. This event is FREE to one clean up coordinator, one serving coordinator, and the single or couple who volunteers to bring 5 pounds of lamb or 10 pounds of chicken. Cost: $8.00 with arranged food contribution and one bottle of kosher wine for each adult in your party, one bottle of grape juice for each child. $18 each without food contribution + beverage. Children under thirteen free with food, $5 without. You can arrive 6-7 pm to socialize and help with preparations. Seder itself starts at 7:00 pm.
4-30-11 Join us for Beltane Ritual around a bon fire! At Penfield House
7:00 PM Diner is pot luck Ritual at 8:00 PM
BeltAnE is a celebration of spring. It is also a way of connecting with the Earth Mother very directly--the idea being that through the sexual connection of those present flows their fertility to the earth herself encouraging growing things for good crops and to the women of the tribe as well. The priest and priestess are believed to become or at least represent the God and Goddess in their love making. The Great Rite was part of this celebration in ancient times and from it many children were born. Since their fathering was often questionable, they were considered children of the Gods. While Jewish and Christian traditions are considerably different, they agree in the belief that we are all sons and daughters of God and that the divine is within each of us
May 7 JOIN US AT RENAISSANCE PLEASURE FAIRE
Location: at the Santa Fe Dam Recreation Area, which is at the Irwindale exit off the 210 Freeway, just east of where the 210 and 605 Freeways cross.
BARDIC PLAYS , BAWDY SONGS, PAGEANTRY , UNUSUAL FOOD, SAUCY WENCHES AND OTHER DELIGHTS. Opening is at 10 am.
CALL LTD HOT LINE 818-886-0069 IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE THERE.
Or at faire only you can reach Greg's cell phone at 818-614-6452 to connect with us on site.
Saturday: May 21st 2011 - It takes a Village to raise a child and a child to raise Community!
Discussion from: 11 am to 4 pm followed by the potluck
From Coops to Expanded Families in the Poly Community.
A discussion for Polyamorous Families and Youths ages 13+. Discussions Topics: The different family, tribal and community dynamics. Grandparent involvement/Elder mentoring. Teens' joys and concerns about the lifestyle (if any). Talks on: Social Judgments on the lifestyle, Polyamorous-like television shows and Future Poly-Family gatherings in the valley area.
Terry Brussel will speak from her experience with raising children in the 70s and 80s in am open marriage situation--poly community, but not group living. Terry was deeply influenced in her parenting by such Heinlein books as Moon is a Harsh Mistress and Stranger in a Strange Land.
Rachel Hope raised her first child in group living situations and is planning a live- in intentional community as a setting for raising her daughter, now age 2.
Children 12 and under are welcome, but may need parent volunteer for child care.
Afternoon: Potluck Lunch and Picnic at Balboa Park, bring your own sandwiches and something healthy delicious to share.
Lead by: Lena Hausselman, Rachel Hope and Terry Brussel
Upcoming
Saturday June 18: Free Yourself from the Slavery of Jealousy! Discussion, exercises, and guided meditation for vanquishing YOUR green-eyed monster
Atlas Shrugged explores a dystopian United States where leading innovators, ranging from industrialists to artists, refuse to be exploited by society. The protagonist, Dagny Taggart, sees society collapse around her as the government increasingly asserts control over all industry (including Taggart Transcontinental, the once mighty transcontinental railroad for which she serves as the operating executive), while society's most productive citizens, led by the mysterious John Galt, progressively disappear. Galt describes the strike as "stopping the motor of the world" by withdrawing the "minds" that drive society's growth and productivity. In their efforts, these "men of the mind" hope to demonstrate that a world in which the individual is not free to create is doomed, that civilization cannot exist where men are slaves to society and government, and that the destruction of the profit motive leads to the collapse of society.
There is also quite a bit of relationship oriented material to this story as Dagny grows into womanhood. Her relationships with the men she considers to be dynamic enough personalities to deserve her loyalty and love are a fascinating parallel to what she and Rand's readers discover about the meaning of power, politics, profit and integrity. The bottom line is that we are responsible for the state of our own lives. We create our own troubles as well as our successes and our joys. Only we ourselves have the power to create the lives we want to live. Only by accepting responsibility can we taste of FREEDOM - in bed, government or commerce.
Note: Ayn Rand herself was poly, though her characters are presented as monogamous. If she were writing today, perhaps that would have been different...
MEETUP Events
First Saturday every month - 7 PM Deborah's Poly Meetup in Burbank / North Hollywood
Go to www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory or call 310-717-5790 for more info
Shama
http://www.thepleasureparadigm.com
Do you have poly news that you wish to share?
E-Mail us at livethedream.org or call us at (818) 886-0069, ex. 3
Tell your Poly curious friends to look us up at livethedream.org
DIRECTIONS TO THE PENFIELD HOUSE
From the 118 going east, get off at De Soto Avenue, head South on De Soto to Parthenia, head East on Parthenia, head South on Winnetka, head East on Chase one block and head North on Penfield to 8515.
From the 118 going west, get off at Tampa Avenue, head South on Tampa to Parthenia, head West on Parthenia, head South on Winnetka, head East on Chase (one block), head North on Penfield.
From the 101, get off at Winnetka Avenue, head North on Winnetka Avenue to Chase (next signal North of Roscoe). Head East on Chase Street and go one block turn left on Penfield Avenue.
We are the big white house on the left hand side of the street; first house on Penfield north of Chase Street. Number 8515
Tantra Introduction with Shama
Saturday: 03/19/2011
11 am to 4 pm
Shama has been teaching tantra and polyamory for many years and has written a book on the Poly Lifestyle. She will be offering ways to connect more deeply with the loves of your life... experience Tantra.(see article below) and treat yourself to a trip to her website--thepleasureparadigm.com.
Afternoon activities: Potluck lunch and Hot Tubbing. Bring something healthy and delicious to share.
Burning Man Many Choices for Many Lifestyles
Saturday April 16 11 am to 4pm
Poly Paradise Showcased. Harold Goldstein, who has been to Burning Man every year for nearly a decade, shares his experiences and his videos of this unique intentional community. It exists in the desert for only a couple of weeks a year, but many of the people who attend it consider it their true Home and will do anything to get there each year - even quitting jobs refusing them leave at that time. All sorts of alternative lifestyles are represented in the different camps, with Poly Paradise being one of the largest devoted to the lifestyle Live the Dream is about. Born Again Christians coexist with all out hedonists - all of them identifying first and foremost as BURNERS.
Monday, April 18th
LIVE THE DREAM PASSOVER SEDER, 7:00 to 10:30 PM
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Call Terry to RSVP before 4-13-10 at (818) 886-0069, ex. 3 to arrange what to bring for the Seder or to attend without a food contribution.
We need time to plan things and shop for supplies.
This is Celebration of Freedom!
This holiday commemorates the first time one People (the Jews) freed itself from bondage to another People (the Egyptians). We'll do this with plenty of group participation! You don't have to read Hebrew for this or even be Jewish. Whether you want to learn more about your own heritage, just share this special holiday with those you care about, or discover a cultural experience new to you, you are welcome! This is coordinated pot luck since it requires special foods. This event is FREE to one clean up coordinator, one serving coordinator, and the single or couple who volunteers to bring 5 pounds of lamb or 10 pounds of chicken. Cost: $8.00 with arranged food contribution and one bottle of kosher wine for each adult in your party, one bottle of grape juice for each child. $18 each without food contribution + beverage. Children under thirteen free with food, $5 without. You can arrive 6-7 pm to socialize and help with preparations. Seder itself starts at 7:00 pm.
Upcoming
May 7 Renaissance Pleasure Faire: Mother's Day/May Day celebration
May 21: It Takes a Village to Raise a Child-from Co-ops to Expanded Families in the Poly Community Real life and Heinleinian Families discussed
June 18: Free Yourself from the Slavery of Jealousy! Discussion, exercises, and guided meditation for vanquishing YOUR green eyed monster
Shama writes:
I have been a teacher of the Tantric art of conscious loving for over a decade, and I am still learning more to share with you!
I think we can always improve on a
good thing and Tantra has shown me that our capacity for pleasure is unlimited!
I can't think of any better frontier to
explore!
What
is Tantra
Primarily, Tantra is a spiritual
path of the heart and consciousness. A spiritual path is one where the focus of
one's attention is upon exploring the world through one's relationship to self
and others (expanding awareness).
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The Tantric Relationship
A Tantric relationship is one in
which both partners live their lives according to Tantric philosophy: choosing
to see, love, and honor each other as the embodiment of Divine expression -
invoking the highest spiritual enlightenment in one another, consciously
creating their lives and union based on unconditional love, allowing, and
receiving. Their choices are based on the highest expressions of loving,
pleasure, and freedom, while supporting each other's spiritual journeys, growth
and joy as much as they can!
Are YOU Ready for Group Living?
Space Available at a lovely group house in West San Fernando Valley
Many people together can live cheaper and a whole lot nicer than that same number could live separately. Shared appliances, kitchen, large living room, laundry facilities, etc is part of the reason. Over the years at our Live the Dream gatherings we've done an exercise in which we have everyone write down what they could afford to pay down for a home, what they could pay monthly, where they want to live, what kind of people they want to live with, etc. Invariably, we discover that living together costs less and is quite affordable for most people.
WHO LIVES HERE?
I am Terry Brussel: fifty-seven years old, passionate about LIFE, lady hypnotherapist, Judeo Pagan. I've been involved in multiply committed relationships since my late teens. I founded Live the Dream in 1987 as an education and support group for that life style. It was a spin off of Family Synergy which had promoted poly living since 1971 - long before the word was coined. I've been doing hypnotherapy since 1969 (when I was sixteen). As director of Success Center, I now help coaches and hypnotists to build successful practices nationwide, in Canada and the UK.
Our own group house came together from several different sources. Carl moved in with my second husband and me January 15, 1995 when we still lived in an 1100 square foot house in Mission Hills. The home we live in today is a 3300 square foot one in Canoga Park bought in 2003. We had met Carl a few months before at a Whole Life Expo 1994 where he and my son politely wrestled over who would carry my stuff to a hypnosis demonstration I was giving. We later discovered many connections and mutual friendships. As a Family Synergy member, he had been in a triad with a long time girl friend of my first husband and a man who had been in my friendship circle for many years. In 1994, Carl had been after our friend Dan to introduce him to me for quite while due to his interest in healing and hypnotherapy, but Dan had not gotten around to it. Carl took the matter in his own hands by coming to that Expo knowing I was speaking there. Carl is to this day invaluable to me in helping other hypnotherapists perfect their skills through the services and materials provided by Success Center. Carl decided he was Home when he first had dinner at our house shortly after the Expo he met me at and discovered we celebrated Shabbat dinner with traditional blessings in Hebrew, and then ended up passing around the wine glass with the salutation "Never Thirst". Carl is an avid science fiction reader as is everyone else who lives here. He does the shopping for our household and creates delicious meals seasoned with love. He is 74, single and unattached.
Will "Taliesin" Jarvis attended Live the Dream meetings off and on beginning in 1997. Will is a published author who writes novels on alternative lifestyles and is carrying on for Robert Rimmer, a fellow New Englander, since Bob's passing. He is active in lobbying for freedom of speech and other first amendment issues, issues also dear to my own heart. He had become an intimate friend for several months before he moved in with us. When we did the exercise of writing down what you could put toward rent on a place, where you were willing to live and what kind of people you wanted to live with, etc. at a Live the Dream meeting in June of 2002, I looked at what he wrote and asked if he was seriously available for living in a group house. He was. Will moved in when we bought our current home in 2003. His interpersonal skills help keep us all together and on an even keel. He's a valued housemate still with us as I write this in March of 2011. Will is also Live the Dream's and Success Center's web master. Note to potential female housemates: Will, is 53, single, and cute.
Our newest housemate, Greg, is also my life partner. He is 62, we met through OK Cupid in July of 2008 by phone, talked several times without meeting and he finally showed up at a Live the Dream All Hallow's Eve party 10-30-09. We Shared Water shortly after that. An avid Science Fiction reader for most of his life, Greg gave a talk on Stranger in a Strange Land when I included him on the Live the Dream panel at his first science fiction convention-- Los Con November of 2009. He moved in with us 12-20-09 as my primary partner. A year after we met, we decided to be handfasted. The ceremony was February 5, 2011 in the presence of friends and loved ones including many of our Water Brothers. Greg is a yogi and teacher of yoga (now doing this for some of my hypnosis clients), an accomplished chef (who fortunately gets along well with Carl in the kitchen). Greg fixes our plumbing and keeps our Internet connections working. He is a great marketer at Success Center's trade shows and helps put together the scripts, CDs, books etc we provide for clients and professionals nationally and internationally.
Yes, we do have some cottage industry going on here if you do anything involving human enrichment. We can probably give you clients for it. If you can sell, I'll put you to work for sure and pay you commissions. However, we do want a house mate who can pay his or her rent separately from such opportunities. This is a cooperative household, not a commune. Everyone pays his share.
Rent on the available room (with private bath and plenty of closet space) is $650 (with an office/storage space upstairs available for $150 extra) + utilities. Food and sundries $75 a week - tell grocery shoppers for that week what you want bought or be a grocery shopper. Several meals are shared ones and the rest is fixing your own from what's in the fridge. A maid comes weekly to do the heavy cleaning in our common areas. A gardener takes care of our front and back yards, though house member gardening efforts are certainly encouraged.
Mostly, our group house members have stayed for many years. Recently, it became clear that one of our group could not continue living here because of communication issues starting over an argument regarding his parking space - seems minor, but little things can become big ones when you refuse to haul them out and discuss them. PLEASE BE WILLING TO COMMUNICATE IF YOU WANT TO MOVE IN HERE.
Not everyone can live together and not everyone is able to handle group living. Each relationship, along with its transitions, has learnings within it. We grow and move forward.
Though male housemates will certainly be considered, more feminine energy besides my own around here would be a good thing. Couples are welcome.
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Please feel free to post the ad below on appropriate web sites, bulletin boards at club houses and colleges, etc. THANKS!
LIVE THE DREAM
POLYAMORY FRIENDLY MALE/FEMALE GROUP HOUSE SEEKS HOUSEMATE
Spacious room with private bath and plenty of closet space rent $650
Office/storage area available upstairs $150
Plus utilities.
Our home is a beautiful one in a nice neighborhood of the west San Fernando Valley. Shared areas include a grand living room with high ceiling and a fire place, dining area, and big country kitchen. Washer and dryer available. We have a clothing optional hot tub which usually has good company available and music of your choice playing in it. We share good conversation, holidays, outings, special occasions, hugs... and household chores.
One cat ok, no dogs. Four cats already in residence.
NON SMOKING ABSOLUTELY
If you or someone you know would be interested in living here, call 818-886-0069 and we'll talk...
MEETUP Events
First Saturday every month ? 7 PM Deborah?s Poly Meetup in Burbank/ North Hollywood
Go to www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory or call 310-717-5790 for more info
Family Synergy Events
Third Wed every month 7:30p Connections Event/Discussion: Location: Huntington Beach
RSVP: PLEASE CALL (714.893.3133) or email Lili! COST: FREE for everyone, bring something to eat/drink to share. Calalili8@aol.com
Do you have poly news that you wish to share?
E-Mail us at livethedream.org or call us at (818) 886-0069, ex. 3
Tell your Poly curious friends to look us up at livethedream.org
DIRECTIONS TO THE PENFIELD HOUSE
From the 118 going east, get off at De Soto Avenue, head South on De Soto to Parthenia, head East on Parthenia, head South on Winnetka, head East on Chase one block and head North on Penfield to 8515.
From the 118 going west, get off at Tampa Avenue, head South on Tampa to Parthenia, head West on Parthenia, head South on Winnetka, head East on Chase (one block), head North on Penfield.
From the 101, get off at Winnetka Avenue, head North on Winnetka Avenue to Chase (next signal North of Roscoe). Head East on Chase Street and go one block turn left on Penfield Avenue.
We are the big white house on the left hand side of the street; first house on Penfield north of Chase Street. Number 8515
For Google instructions, go to: http://maps.google.com/maps?q=8515+Penfield+Ave,+Winnetka,+CA+91306,+USA&sa=X&oi=map&ct=title
Also see their website at www.familysynergy.org
ALL VISITORS PLEASE PARK IN THE STREET, NOT IN THE DRIVE WAY. THANK YOU
LTD DUES ARE $25.00 PER YEAR FOR ONE PERSON, $40 FOR A COUPLE, $10 EACH FOR ADDITIONAL PERSON(S) IN THE SAME HOUSE. DOUBLE THAT FOR FREE ATTENDENCE AT ALL REGULAR DAY TIME 3RD SATURDAY MEETINGS. TO BECOME A MEMBER OR TO RENEW YOU YOUR MEMBERSHIP, PLEASE COMPLETE THE FOLLOWING FORM AND EITHER E-MAIL OR SNAIL MAIL IT TO THE ADDRESS LISTED BELOW. An E-Mail NEWSLETTER SUBSCRIPTION ONLY IS AVAILABLE FOR FREE. JUST BE SURE TO PROVIDE US WITH YOUR E-Mail ADDRESS. REGULAR MEETINGS ARE $5.00 WITH YOUR CURRENTLY PAID MEMBERSHIP CARD (FAMILY SYNERGY OR LIVE THE DREAM] WITHOUT MEMBERSHIP MEETINGS ARE $8.00.
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EVENTS
Live the Dream 8515 Penfield Ave Winnetka, CA. 91306
Unless otherwise noted, all events are at 8515 Penfield Ave. in Winnetka 91306. This is a group house, home of Terry, Greg, Carl and Will. For all events: RSVP / more info call the LTD Hotline (818) 886-0069, ex. 3.
For info on family synergy event see: www.familysynergy.org
Note: Terry Brussel is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and a 4th generation matchmaker. We provide poly relationship counseling, hypnotic jealousy release and other services. See www.acesuccess.com or call (800) 543-3628
PLEASE NOTE: All 3rd Saturday Live the Dream meetings are also Family Synergy connection parties from 11am-2pm Also, Family Synergy members pay member price at Live the Dream meetings & parties
MEETUP Events
First Saturday every month ? 7 PM Debora?s Poly Meetup in Burbank/ North Hollywood
Go to www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory or call 310-717-5790 for more info
Family Synergy Events
Third Wed every month 7:30p Connections Event/Discussion: Location: Huntington Beach
RSVP: PLEASE CALL (714.893.3133) or email Lili! COST: FREE for everyone, bring something to eat/drink to share.
Also see their website at www.familysynergy.org
Do you have poly news that you wish to share?
E-Mail us at livethedream.org or call us at (818) 886-0069, ex. 3
Tell your Poly curious friends to look us up at livethedream.org
DIRECTIONS TO THE PENFIELD HOUSE
From the 118 going east, get off at De Soto Avenue, head
South on De Soto to Parthenia, head East on Parthenia, head South on Winnetka,
head East on Chase one block and head North on Penfield to 8515.
From the 118 going west, get off at Tampa Avenue, head South on Tampa to Parthenia, head West on Parthenia, head South on Winnetka, head East on Chase (one block), head North on Penfield.
From the 101, get off at Winnetka Avenue, head North on Winnetka Avenue to Chase (next signal North of Roscoe). Head East on Chase Street and go one block turn left on Penfield Avenue.
We are the big white house on the left hand side of the street; first house on Penfield north of Chase Street. Number 8515
ForGoogleinstructions,goto:http://maps.google.com/maps?q=8515+Penfield+Ave,+Winnetka,+CA+91306,+USA&sa=X&oi=map&ct=title
Cost: $7.50 non members/$5.00 to members.
Saturday August 14 11am to 4pm Forming an Intimate Friendship Group: Learn how you can create your own group of caring, special friends whether you do it Stranger In a Strange Land style or in some other way appropriate to your own desires. You may or may not be into living with these friends, but having people to do fun things with, celebrate special occasions with, and perhaps to take to bed lovingly can be pretty wonderful! Afternoon activities: Trip to a nearby park with a beautiful lake and Picnic Pot Luck Lunch (Lake Balboa)
Poly Fantasy Island - Now a
Sleep Over at Penfield House RSVP 818-886-0069 11am Saturday September
11 through Sunday September 12 1 pm Sunday Recession Special $30 each or $50 per
couple includes Dinner Saturday night and Sunday Brunch?lunch Saturday still pot
luck
Spend a very special weekend with your poly
community. Each participant will have an opportunity to get a loving fantasy
fulfilled. Do you want four lovely ladies to tell you how handsome and desirable
you are while they massage your feet and hands? How about being cuddled all
night in the strong arms of a big man? Perhaps having six caring others rock you
in the hot tub, then dry you off with a big fluffy towel and cover you with
kisses is your heart's desire. Let us know what you want, and we will do our
best to arrange it for you. On the giving end, you will have the opportunity to
plan exactly what it will take to delight the recipient of the fantasy. Enjoy
both sides of this experience! Learn what you can do (later, on your own) to
give a loved one or someone you want to be in a relationship with a date to
remember...forever. No explicitly sexual requests please. Bring towels and
sandals for the hot tub and your own bedding. Some inside sleep arrangements
available. There is room for air mattresses outside on the deck and in the back
yard. Ask about it when you RSVP.
Poly Fantasy Island - Family Synergy 2010
Conference!
Family Synergy's 2010 Annual
Conference! One of the oldest traditions in Family Synergy is our annual
Conference.
Hosted by Terry Lee Brussel
When: Friday Sept. 10th ? Sunday Sept. 12th
Arrival: 4 pm Friday - Departure: Sunday 4pm
Where: 'The Barn' at Zaca Lake Retreat ? Los Olivos, CA
93441
It?s Time to Mark Your Calendar! Reservation
Deadline: July 31st!
Cost: $175 per person or $300 per
couple
http://www.familysynergy.org/conference.html
World Poly Convention June 25-June 27 HARBIN HOT SPRINGS,
Northern California Play, share multi-lover interests *Meet potential
lovers, Join the Relational Choice Community *Experience polygroup relationship
negotiation & lovemaking techniques *Manage Jealousy and Cultivate
Compersion *Ponder polyactivism, group marriage, child custody, group housing
*Participate in and react to panel discussions *Join a poly-tantra ritual
*Commit to Your Poly Relationship in a Ritual Before the Poly Community
*Celebrate party of the year Lectures/workshops/events will include: SNUGGLE
PARTY Dave Doleshal, Ph.D. PARTNER YOGA Lakshmi Devi EMBRACE COMPERSION,
JEALOUSY & OTHER INNER VOICES Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. & Janet Kira Lessin
HOW TO PRODUCE TRANSFORMATIONAL & FUN EROTIC EVENTS Christophe Ceri And
other delightful opportunities to grow closer with kindred spirits. Several
different poly groups with special interests from Tantra to Zeg are involved.
This Conference is for fun, learning and solidarity. We are all in this to find
love in its many flavors of Family. Terry Brussel-Gibbons will be speaking:
Saturday 3:15-4:45 Finding Poly Mates (including hypnotic Love Magnet) with Greg
Barnes Terry & Greg are Poly Mates who found each other on the Internet. How
does one find poly mates in 2010? Internet dating on poly and non-poly sites
will be discussed. Is it different for couples, triads and morads than for
singles? In the poly life style, most of us are open to Live the Dream is an
education and support group for those who, originally inspired by the writings
of Robert Heinlein, Robert Rimmer and Marion Zimmer Bradley, are now ready to
LIVE such alternative lifestyles as cooperative living, open relationships and
group marriage. Many of our concepts on multiply committed relationships come
from Heinlein?s Stranger in a Strange Land and Moon is a Harsh Mistress. Live
the Dream also sponsors a Nest of Church of All Worlds, the real life, over
fifty year old spiritual movement inspired by Stranger in a Strange Land.
potential love partners even when we are in stable, long-term joyous marriages.
Is the motivation of a single seeking a primary partner (s) stronger than a
simple openness? When does strong motivation become negative neediness and how
can we avoid that? Is being bisexual a special issue? How bisexual do you need
to be before it is important enough to mention? On which sites and which
Personals is being poly or bi an asset and on which a detriment? These questions
and many others will be openly, caringly discussed in dyads and full circle
exercises. LOVE MAGNET: Concluding guided meditation for drawing into your life
the partner(s) you desire will include suggestions based on what we discover in
this workshop. Please see www.worldpolyamoryassociation.org for details.
LTD AT WESTERCON July 1 through July 4 at the Pasadena Hilton See the web site for info: www.westercon63.org West Coast Annual Science Fiction and Fantasy Convention Combined this year with ConChord Filk Convention-- Songs of SF and The Space Age Poly Themed Bardic Circle with Kathy Mar and Terry Brussel July 3 10 pm following the Masquerade
Saturday July 17 11am to 1 pm Heinlein on Polyamory Over his career from the first book he wrote (We the Living?written in the late 1930s and not published until long after his death) to his final To Sail Beyond the Sunset Robert A Heinlein shared ideas on alternative ways to relate to each other as Family. What is Heinlein actually telling us about group marriage, group living and open relationships? Much of it is too consistent to be ?just story?, but appears to be an expression of his life philosophy. This is confirmed by the biographical work on Heinlein being done by Bill Patterson which we will also be discussing at this meeting. How can we best use these teaching in our real life relationships? 1 pm Pot Luck Lunch?bring something healthy and delicious to share. Saturday July 17 2-4 Burning Man: Adult or Family event?Can you have an event that is properly both? Are you Poly with children? Do you want to go to the Burning Man Festival but can?t decide if it should be a family trip or just for the adults? Learn what is necessary for you to do to enjoy BOTH! Handout of theme camps will be available. 6pm to??? Burner party!!! Come and enjoy a Burner friendly party, test out a costume or two listen to music, watch a few Burning Man Documentaries, help celebrate all the July Birthdays or just to meet other Poly burners! C/O hot tub will be available, bring your own towels! Leo Carrillo State Beach in Malibu. July 24-25 Forest and sea meet beautifully at this enchanting location. We will spend Saturday 10 am until 5ish enjoying the beach at Leo Carrillo and swimming in the ocean. Bring your own picnic lunch ?your own sandwiches and drinks with something to share--whatever delights you. Or go scuba diving with Greg Barnes for halibut, yellow tail etc if you have a fishing license. We will do dinner at 6:30 pm at Paradise Cove, a delightful restaurant with a great salad bar, fresh seafood, an ocean view and its own unusual beach! There will be a marshmallow roast and a moonlit walk by the water that evening. RSVP by July 22 at 818-886-0069 so we will have time to get dinner reservations in?sooner would be better. Cell phone # to reach us at this event only is (818) 388-5612. Saturday August 14 11am to 4pm Forming an Intimate Friendship Group: Learn how you can create your own group of caring, special friends whether you do it Stranger In a Strange Land style or in some other way appropriate to your own desires. You may or may not be into living with these friends, but having people to do fun things with, celebrate special occasions with, and perhaps to take to bed lovingly can be pretty wonderful! Afternoon activities: Trip to a nearby park with a beautiful lake and Picnic Pot Luck Lunch
SEPTEMBER 10 TO SEPT 11
FAMILY SYNERGY CONFERENCE AT ZACA LAKE (near Santa Ynez) POLY FANTASY
ISLAND Spend a very special weekend with your poly community. Each participant
will have an opportunity to get a loving fantasy fulfilled. Do you want four
lovely ladies to tell you how handsome and desirable you are while they massage
your feet and hands? How about being cuddled all night in the strong arms of a
big man? Perhaps having six caring others rock you in the hot tub, then dry you
off with a big fluffy towel and cover you with kisses is your heart's desire.
Let us know what you want, and we will do our best to arrange it for you. On the
giving end, you will have the opportunity to plan exactly what it will take to
delight the recipient of the fantasy. Enjoy both sides of this experience! Learn
what you can do (later, on your own) to give a loved one or someone you want to
be in a relationship with a date to remember...forever. No explicitly sexual
requests please. Saturday April 17 11am-4pm Trans
and Bi Sexual Polyamory lead by Shirley Bushnell.
There is a wide spread transsexual community in LA and
particularly in West Hollywood. Shirley has served as mentor to many who are
making a change in gender, often before they make a change in actual sexual
anatomy. She has ?ride alongs? with police officers helping them to understand
and to treat members of this community with more empathy. Learn how multiply
committed relationships and group marriage work among the transgendered.
Frequently, males who become females wind up in relationships with other females
and female to male transsexuals may be in relationship with a man?or may be
legally married to a woman raising children together. Many trans people are
bisexual. Many individuals, many choices. Learn about whom they are and why they
make the choices they do.
Pot luck lunch, 1-2pm
hot
tubbing and socializing follow this discussion.
Friday April 30 7pm until Midnight BELTANE FIRE RITUAL (and Potluck dinner).
Celebration of Fertility. It is the time of wild flowers, lambs, chicks, and growth of new flowers . Living things give birth and have the richness of the summer to grow into maturity. The Life Force is strong and we glory in it! Bring something delicious to share for Pot Luck Dinner at 7pm. Ritual begins at 8 pm. Saturday May 8 LTD Outing to Renaissance Pleasure Faire at Santa Fe Dam in Irwindale. Gather round the May Pole! Lunch with the Green Man and admire the deliciously displayed serving wenches. Enjoy robust Shakespearean Theater and heavenly dulcimer music. We will meet in the parking lot (details next issue) at 9:30am. Opening parade is at 10 am. Mothers will be honored at opening and throughout Faire this weekend?bring yours or let your kids bring you. Let us know you will be joining us and we can make plans together?LTD hot line. At the Faire, Terry can be reached at 818-388-5612. Details on the faire go to www.renfair.com/socal Live the Dream is an education and support group for those who, originally inspired by the writings of Robert Heinlein, Robert Rimmer and Marion Zimmer Bradley, are now ready to LIVE such alternative lifestyles as cooperative living, open relationships and group marriage. Many of our concepts on multiply committed relationships come from Heinlein?s Stranger in a Strange Land and Moon is a Harsh Mistress. Live the Dream also sponsors a Nest of Church of All Worlds, the real life, over fifty year old spiritual movement inspired by Stranger in a Strange Land. ===================================================
Saturday May 15 11am to 4pm: Dragon Riders of [Poly] Pern lead by Greg Barnes Join with your Dragon in the Mating Flight! Feel passions deep and demanding. Riders mate, males chasing the Queen Rider as their Dragons chase the Queen. Who catches her will determine who is Weyr Leader in the Turns to come?who shall protect the people of Pern from the fall of Deadly Spores (called Thread) with Fire Breath. Those who actually wish to experience this will have the option of doing so through a guided meditation lead by Hypnotherapist Terry Brussel. Others can participate in further discussion or soak in the Jacuzzi. We will discuss the unique lifestyle of a culture where land is held by one sort of leader, others tend and ride the Dragons who protect that land, Guilds of Smiths, Miners, and ?... who hold and pass on the Skills of the past. The Harpers are Teachers, Storytellers and makers of Music. Their halls where Feasts and daily meals are served to members of these different groups, supervised by the Head Woman of each guild hall seeing to the comforts (clothing, food and lodging details) of all within is a lesson in cooperative living to be brought into our own time and place. ===================================================
Saturday June 19 11a - 4p Real World Poly Roots: GODDARD COLLEGE ? THE REAL HARRAD? Join noted author and social-change activist Will ?Taliesin? Jarvis as he shares his memories of Goddard College, the inspiration, in part, for Robert Rimmer's Harrad Experiment. Goddard, the oldest experimental college in the US, took sexual and social education to a whole new level in the swinging 1960s and 70s. With classes ranging from nude massage to creating social change; with co-ed dorms and unisex bathrooms; with gay and lesbian activism, Goddard was at the forefront of the sexual revolution. Will was, and still is, a part of that revolution and continues to promote the 'Make Love, Not War' philosophy in his writing, art and political activities. Will spoke at his first Live the Dream meeting back in 1999. He became a member of our Group Household through an exercise on the advantages of Group Living at another meeting in 2002 and has been living in Penfield House since 2003. You can LIVE your dreams! ===================================================
World Poly Convention June
25-June 27 HARBIN HOT SPRINGS, Northern California
Play, share multi-lover interests
*Meet potential lovers. Join the Relational Choice
Community
*Experience polygroup relationship
negotiation & lovemaking techniques
*Manage
Jealousy and Cultivate Compersion
*Ponder polyactivism,
group marriage, child custody, group housing
*Participate in and react to panel discussions
*Join a poly-tantra ritual
*Commit
to Your Poly Relationship in a Ritual Before the Poly Community
*Celebrate party of the year
Lectures/workshops/events will include:
SNUGGLE PARTY Dave Doleshal, Ph.D.
PARTNER YOGA Lakshmi Devi EMBRACE COMPERSION, JEALOUSY
& OTHER INNER VOICES Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. & Janet Kira Lessin HOW TO
PRODUCE TRANSFORMATIONAL & FUN EROTIC EVENTS Christophe Ceri And other
delightful opportunities to grow closer with kindred spirits. Several different
poly groups with special interests from Tantra to Zeg are involved. This
Conference is for fun, learning and solidarity. We are all in this to find love
in its many flavors of Family. Terry Brussel-Gibbons will be speaking twice:
Friday 1:30-2:30PM POLY MIXER
And
Saturday 3:15p to 4:45p Finding Poly Mates (including hypnotic Love Magnet) with
Greg Barnes Terry & Greg are Poly Mates who found each other on the
Internet.
How does one find poly mates in 2010?
Internet dating on poly and non-poly sites will be discussed. Is it different
for couples, triads and morads than for singles? In the poly lifestyle, most of
us are open to potential love partners even when we are in stable, long-term
joyous marriages. Is the motivation of a single seeking a primary partner (s)
stronger than a simple openness? When does strong motivation become negative
neediness and how can we avoid that? Is being bisexual a special issue? How
bisexual do you need to be before it is important enough to mention? On which
sites and which Personals is being poly or bi an asset and on which a detriment?
These questions and many others will be openly, caringly discussed in dyads and
full circle exercises. LOVE MAGNET: Concluding guided meditation for drawing
into your life the partner(s) you desire will include suggestions based on what
we discover in this workshop. Please see www.worldpolyamoryassociation.org for
details.
January 16, 2010 11 am to 4 pm
New
Year?s Relationship Resolutions
How can you make the relationship
you are in more joyous than ever before?
If you aren?t
in a relationship, what can you do to make time with
you something very desirable to the person or persons you
want to be in
relationship with? Learn the secret of
making time with you more joyous
for you and those you
want to be with?
?1pm Pot luck lunch.
?2-4 pm Hot tubbing and socializing
Saturday February 20 11 am to 4 pm
Valentine?s Day with Friends and Lovers
Lead by Terry Brussel and Greg
Barnes
Are you a single
man or woman looking for a primary partner with whom to form an open committed
relationship? Are you a couple looking for a delightful single, couple or
moresom to join in your lives for anything from a date to a life time? What kind
of partner(s) would bring you the greatest happiness? How do you choose them?
Learn how to use poly meet ups, the internet, matchmakers and other ways to meet
your Right One(s). You?ll get male and female view points of two people who used
these methods and are no longer alone?
?Tribal feast at 1 pm. Bring
delicious finger foods to feed each other.
?2-4 pm Hot
tubbing and socializing
Valentine Day for Singles, Dyads, Triads and Moresomes
Happy Valentine's Day! Flowers, candy, dancing and
passion--someone special in your arms. Except if there isn't someone special
right now...or if your some special is with his or her primary partner tonight.
Then it can be a real downer.
Single and no love partner at present? Don't let all the
cards, gift items and dreamy looks you see around you bring you down. Let it
instead motivate you to be looking for that certain person or couple who may
already be looking for you. Your life mate is out there- -not just one but many
possible "right" ones. There are books on how to look, audio/video tapes and
seminars. You can start at the library or a book store. Browse. Find one with a
step by step program, not just for finding someone wonderful, but perhaps also
for accessing what changes you may need to make to be ready for that person. How
to Make a Man Fall in Love by Tracey Cabot is good. The converse book for men
appears to be out of print, though there are likely others out there. The
couples version is Staying In Love for a Life Time by the same author. For more
in depth info on NLP, Unlimited Power by Tony Robbins is available in tape or
book form. It's better to use recorded material or live training as the way you
say things is at least as important as what you say. Hypnosis can assist you in
actually integrating NLP into your subconscious mind, your child mind, helping
you to use it with the kind of unconscious mastery demonstrated by such
practitioners as Tony Robbins and Tad James. We offer that at Success
Center--800-GOAL NOW (462-5669)
What's NLP? Neuro Linguistic Programming is a way to
deeply understand how another person thinks and communicates, what is important
to them. It ranges from mirroring words and gestures to get a potential date to
notice you at a party to saying the right things and being the right person for
your chosen life mate to want to marry. It works.
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I had a
client for my matchmaking service who only wanted to meet ladies with long blond
hair. I found a match for him who was everything else he wanted, but her hair
was short and auburn. He reluctantly agreed to meet her. He called me after the
first date to tell me she looked like a horse. Two weeks later, he called to say
she didn't look that bad actually and to tell me she had other characteristics
he loved. The wedding invitation came six weeks later.
The gut feel that caused me to
risk his original aggravation was right, but the lady had a lot to do with
making that work. She made him feel good about himself; let him know how right
for her he was. She learned what special things really pleased him in the way a
woman dressed and acted. She did those things without changing the essence of
who she was, which was right for him in the first place. Some of this was inside
info from me-- the rest she picked up by watching him, listening to him and
asking the right questions. She learned to speak to him using the kinds of words
he best responded to--visual imagery in his case. This particular gal just
seemed to have a knack for it. If you don't and you wonder why your
relationships just don't seem to last or to make either of you as happy as you'd
hoped they would, this technique can be learned. It's not a way to manipulate
another person or to give up being yourself. It's a way to deeply communicate
with a potential special someone, to fully understand that other person, decide
if this is Mr or Miss Right, and be happy together if it is.
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Here are a few hints. Does your date(or this person you'd like to date) use words like "I see." It looks good to me." ? When you ask a question, does (s)he look up before answering? This person is probably a visual. Make a date to see the sunset together.
Words like "I hear you." "Just
listen to me." and looking to the side before speaking tell you you're dealing
with an audio. Make a date to listen to a concert together. "It's got to feel
right." "Let's get in touch." and looking down before speaking tell you this
kinesthetic might enjoy an ethnic place where soft comfortable cushions are
provided to recline on. This is obviously over simplified. There are many tapes
and books available on the subject as well as personal instruction. Feel free to
call me for more info.
If you do all this or even a good part of it, you'll be too busy solving the loneliness problem to wallow in it. Soon you'll have your arms around the delightful solution.
We couples, who are looking for a third or for another
couple, do not have to deal with the loneliness problems of a single person in
this situation. We've got each other to be romantic with. Even so, this may be a
good time for courting that special person you are both interested in. Don't
make the mistake of figuring this day is just for you and your mate. A possible
third in your relationship is going to look ahead and see many such "special"
couple times creating loneliness and feelings of being excluded in the future.
If this person is truly important to you, include him or her in. If she's a
lady, the gentleman should get flowers and special gifts for both (different
ones) and take them to dinner together. Show her that old fashioned romance need
not be lost in this new style relationship. If the possible third is a male, the
male member of the couple should include him in planning and implementing a
romantic evening for your lady love. He may not offer, feeling awkward about
intruding. You'll most likely have to ask him to join you and even persuade him
that he is not a third wheel. NLP can be useful for this sort of thing, too. It
will be worth the trouble if your Dream is a triad or even a triad as a starting
point for a larger group marriage. This is true even if the relationship is
going to stay a non residential one. Being inclusive rather than exclusive will
definitely make your single lovers feel cared for and cherished at a time which
could be more difficult for them than for you.
Directions
From
the 118 going east, get off at De Soto Avenue, head South on De Soto to
Parthenia, head East on Parthenia, head South on Winnetka, head East on Chase
one block and head North on Penfield to 8515.
From the 118 going west, get off at Tampa Avenue, head South on Tampa to Parthenia, head West on Parthenia, head South on Winnetka, head East on Chase (one block), head North on Penfield.
From the 101, get off at Winnetka Avenue, head North on Winnetka Avenue to Chase (next signal North of Roscoe). Head East on Chase Street and go one block turn left on Penfield Avenue.
We are the big white house on the left hand side of the street; first house on Penfield north of Chase Street.
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