Marcus, currently in a triad with Terry and Craig Brussel Rogers, has been in two other long-term triads in his life including his first marriage. Sixty now, he has been poly all his adult life. He also attended his share of swing parties… He will be happy to answer any of your questions on the poly lifestyle.

Some poly people are former or “evolved” swingers. (YOU may even be at such a point in your life as a swinger.) Others may straddle both worlds as they attend poly gatherings and “permissive” parties. Hopefully these folks have read Bouquet of Lovers (please see full article on the CAW web site www.caw.org/content/?q=bouquet) and practice safe sex! At LifeStyles Conventions given by Wide World of Swingers from the 70s until 2011, hospitality was handled by a group of people who had known each other over many conventions. They had worked closely together on all the details of making a big convention successful for those giving it and those attending it. Some may have originally met at one of those parties which were frankly Swing parties, had sex and not asked their partner’s name. After working together for years, going to each other’s weddings and kids Bar Mitzvahs as well as social gatherings of all kinds for holidays, etc. any love making they do with each other is no longer casual and is certainly not anonymous. Even if they still call themselves swingers, they are probably poly by most definitions. Can going to swing parties be one way to introduce people to the poly life style while looking for potential love partners who may not yet know they are poly? Surprise! Some swingers think they are monogamous because they have sex but not LOVE with people at swing parties. That is why you might need the “I’m in a poly relationship” conversation as much with one of them as with someone who you (in an open committed relationship or even looking to be in one) are attracted to who has never stepped outside of monogamy.